So you're thinking about utilizing the services of a doula. It all sounds good... but a common question is, where does the partner fit in?
"Dad's sometimes have the hardest task (other than mom) at birth... supporting their partner at the same time they are worrrying about them. Occasionally, fathers who have assured themselves and their partner that they can be the support during labor can be overwhelmed by the sheer power of labor." That comment came from a father of two who felt relief and reassurance with the presence of a doula at the birth of their second child. Doulas can take the pressure off the partner by allowing them to do what they do best... love the mom.
Penny Simkin (a founding mother of DONA) says, "While the doula probably knows more than the partner about birth, hospitals and maternity care, the partner knows more about the woman's personality, likes, dislikes and needs. Moreover, he loves the woman more than anyone else there. The combined combination of partner and doula, along with competent, considerate and caring staff gives the woman the best chance of an optimal outcome."
Bottom line, the doula's role is to facilitate a rewarding, satisfying and positive birth experience for both the mother and her partner.